Being a Mother

I knew growing up that I eventually would fall in love and want to be a Mother. I vowed to be the best mom a kid could have, do all kinds of fun things, be super close to my children, and be the perfect mom. I have come to realize now that my oldest is going to be turning 5yrs old, there is no such thing as being a perfect Mother. It seems everyone tells you when your children are babies, “Oh things will get easier”, “Isn’t it the most wonderful thing to be a mom.”

First, let me say Yes, I am very happy I have my two girls and I couldn’t ever imagine not having them but having children is a lot of work. Everyone wants to sugar coat how great it is and how amazing and beautiful each day is with your child. I’m sorry there are a lot of good days and then there is a lot of challenging days. Kids don’t come with manuals, they are each so different, and if you are anything like me and want to be an active part in your child’s life and really work every day to be the best mom possible, it’s tiring. I’m not saying I don’t love my children because I do more than I can express. I’m just saying kids are a lot of work and it seems as soon as you get one situation or routine figured out they get a year older with a whole new attitude, behavior or whatever that you have to figure out.  

Maybe it comes down to me working too hard to be a good mother instead of just being me and being involved with my children (which I think stems from me not having a great mother growing up so now I try too hard to be a better mom to my children). Either way that’s a whole other story! Also I think society in general puts it out there that as moms we are suppose to be “perfect” moms, do everything, have everything under control all the time, etc.  I think sometimes we as moms feel we should be able to do it all and have perfect storybook children and everything be happy all the time like in the movies.

So here is my tidbit for today, there is no such thing as a PERFECT MOM! I love my children and I love being a mom to them but each day has its good moments and its bad moments. Being a Mother is the hardest job I have ever had and do; there is nothing else that compares. Each day is always a new adventure and I personally just strive each day to be there for my children and raise them the best way I can. I think it’s important to not get caught up in comparing ourselves to other moms and thinking they are better than us etc. I try to tone out those who try to constantly tell me what I should or should not be doing with my children. What works for them or you may not work for me or someone else.I do enjoy talking to other moms and listening and hearing advice, just not those in my past who think their way of parenting is the only way.  As I said before, they don’t come with manuals and each child is unique and different. You just have to do what you can do and be the best mother you can be and hope that it all works out in the end, which let’s face it, it all works out the way its suppose to in the end.

I am very grateful that God allowed me to have healthy children and allows me to be their mother. Each day is always a new adventure and I personally just strive each day to be there for my children and raise them the best  I can. So I want other moms to remember that, being a mom is a hard job and it’s the most important and hardest job you will ever have. It’s not always easy, there are tons of bumps along the way, and “stressed” some days is an understatement,  but just hang in there and everything will work itself out. When times get me down I always try to focus on the positive and remind myself that I have 2 beautiful healthy children and then I run over and tickle them to hear their giggles or lock myself in the bathroom for a few minutes to breathe (lol).

Hang in there Moms! You too will get through those tuff days. Just remember one phrase someone once told me; "this too shall pass"